Wednesday, 5 November 2025

BRUSSELS SPROUTS

When we visited Melbourne last month, Charina and I ate roasted seasonal vegetables in a restaurant next to our hotel. It was such a simple dish - roasted broccolini, brussels sprout, carrot and potato, sprinkled with course sea salt - yet we ate it twice in the same week.

Today I was alone at home while my mum is out for physio therapy.  What better way to enjoy Me Time than taking control of the kitchen?  So I roasted some vegetables.

I used whatever I found in our fridge: brussels sprout, carrot and zucchini.  I also discovered a small sweet potato in the basket we usually keep onions in.

This is the first time that I cooked brussels sprouts at home.  My mum was pretty curious.  I explained that this was something they had plenty of in Oz, that I had enjoyed eating it and wanted her to try them too.  She then enquired about them a couple more times, asking the same questions she had asked just 30 secs earlier.  She forgets quickly, she was recently diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. 

I pushed most of the charred pieces her way because I thought those were the best part of any roast vegetable.  Unfortunately, my mother cut away every charred bit and left them all on the side of her plate. 'I do not like skin," she said.  

I kept my mouth shut as she continued. "The carrots need to be cooked further."

"The zucchini are too soft."

By tomorrow, she may not remember that I ever made roast vegetables.  





Tuesday, 4 November 2025

故意鼓励固执

对于固执的人,不要想改变他,反而要鼓励他,赞扬他,让他在错误的道路上越走越远。

世上有大多人宁愿喝着迷魂汤上路也不愿喝了良药而回头。少给固执的人建议,你的金玉良言不会换来一丝改变。坚持改变对方可能会遭人嫉恨和报复。你不如说两句漂亮的话,结个善缘。

成年人最顶级的自律是克制纠正他人的欲望。一个人成熟的标志,就是不再急着与人争辩自己的看法。


Sunday, 2 November 2025

WHERE'S MY 23 DEG C?

Stayed indoors all day today.  Stuck in lousy weather - thunder, heavy downpour, light shower, then rain again.   Temp of at least 30 degrees.

I remember that on October 17th, while having dinner with Mian and gang, a message like the one below had popped up on my mobile phone.  I showed it to Mian and we asked each other, "For real or not?"  I was so looking forward to cooler weather (especially since I had just returned from a lovely spring week in Melbourne!)


I waited and waited for 23 degrees to happen!  Can the Singapore weather forecast be more reliable please?

招人嫉妒


今早8点钟还赖床不起,被母亲念了一番。有些人年纪越大,控制欲越强。我和朋友在外面和咖啡,她会拨我的手机。

“哎哟,我们这里下雨呢! 下的好大!你那边也在下雨吗?”
“没有,我这边没有下雨。”
“没有吗?你快要回来了吧?”
“没这么早回哦,我不是告诉过你我今天在外面吃晚餐吗?”
“啊?你不回家吃?那我只好煮个方便面随便应付就好咯。” (可怜兮兮的。)

有好长一段时间,我会对她的话很在意。家里有一大堆好吃的,又有帮佣让她使唤,偏偏选择吃方便面?搞得我虐待老人似的。

但现在的我已经释怀。母亲这是一种 attention seeking. 就好像我告诉她我想去旅行,她从未对我说 “你玩开心点“。她会说“其实家里有老人,你是不应该出门的。要是你在外,我在家里有事,你赶不回来可怎么办?” (她这句 “赶不回来” 一说就是十年。)

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能招人喜欢 从来不是真本事
能招人嫉妒 往往是真的有点东西。
小人盯上你
从来不是因为你能力强
而是因为你活成了他想活
却活不成的样子。


不过,你有没有想过为什么 “嫉妒” “贪婪“ ”奴“ “妖” 等字都是“女”字旁?






Saturday, 1 November 2025

DAYS @ HARBOURFRONT | 那些看海的日子

News: Harbourfront Centre to close second-half of 2026.

I'm missing our offices at Harbourfront Centre (Apr 2018 - Aug 2019) where my coworkers and I enjoyed sunny days watching cable cars, cruise ships, clouds, and beautiful sunsets.  

Lunch time was definitely the highlight of each day.  We opted for a different cuisine everyday.  Someone then created "Salad Friday".    We even cooked noodles in the office pantry.

Fabulous times.