Thursday, 29 January 2015

孤独


Z 非常害怕寂寞。有一次下班后经过某快餐店,发现自己的大姐正在里头哽炸鸡!赶紧进去关心一下。姐,你怎么一个人?! 

哦,出来买东西。饿了,进来吃点。。。哎呀你是么了? 原来Z哭了! 她告诉我: 看见我的姐姐一个人吃饭,觉得她好可怜。有儿有女的,为何要这般孤单? 禁不住泪水。。。 

Z问我:常听你说一个人去吃饭、旅行。你是怎么做到的? 

我想是因为我是独生女的关系吧?从小父母把我管得很严,好友没几个,所以个性是有点儿孤独啦。到了适婚年龄还没有适合的另一半,母亲看我不着急便会碎碎念 “以后孤零零时,一定会后悔的!” 已婚的朋友也说”我们几个死党都结婚了,只剩你啦!” 或 “骗人的吧?? 我就不信你一个人可以过得那么开心!” 

“后悔”、”剩你”、”不信你能快乐” - - 这类的话让我决心更独立、过得更好。败犬不需要追,也不用等。有个伴是好事,没有的话我自己玩。不图在职场上叱咤风云,但绝不当平庸无能的“胜犬”。 

Z不一样。她有十个兄弟姐妹,习惯了人多,热闹的气氛。婚后与家人的感情还是非常好。无论办喜办丧,一家40多口人一定聚在一起互相扶持。那是她的福气。一旦要Z一个人生活,她会觉得茫然。前天Z帮上司购物, 去了趟商场。事情办完后已是午餐时分。好想在食阁吃个饭才回办公室,但又不敢一个人吃,一直迟疑着。 终于付出了极大的勇气,排队买了平时最爱吃的鱼片米粉。捧着乘着食物的托盘,一边找位子,一边寻觅熟悉的脸孔。可惜找了半天都没半个认识的人啊!一双手开始发抖,脑子里闪过了 “别吃了! 就随便把食物遗弃在某处,开溜吧!” 的念头。后来看到一位女士,似乎也是一个人。 硬着头皮上前搭讪,女士说:我们就一起吃吧。

太好了,再也不是一个人!一切的委屈和尴尬瞬间全消。  

还蛮可悲的。


Tuesday, 20 January 2015

我的头

外国人用脑去思考,中国人用心。外国人说” X my ass!” 或 “X my foot!”, 中国人会说”X你的头啦!” 

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记得选新屋当天,我到建屋局的大厅里等候,旁边坐了位不相识的三姑, 问我:你选几楼? 

我喜欢较高的楼层,所以打算选35或36楼。 

不料三姑冷笑:住那么高, 以后电梯坏时看你怎么办! 

(TMD 好恶毒!) 不怕,不怕,一座组屋有四部电梯哪。 

三姑抓狂: 你的头啦,四部? 没有可能会有四部的,笨蛋! 

(呜 。。。我就是因为笨才你问我答的呢!) 

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L在旅行社上班,在 Bintan Resort 订了两晚免费住宿。听说一栋 chalet 里有三间卧房,可以六人同住。L邀我和 Moon 同行。L准备在那里 和几位死党打通宵麻将,但我和 Moon 都不会玩啊。和 Moon 商议:没关系啦,到时她们四人打麻将不缺”脚”, 我们就在一旁看电视、聊天,放松下。L听后愤愤地说 ”聊你们的死人头! 不准你们不合群哦!” 受不了L那股霸气, 结果没去Bintan。 

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在认识我之前 Moon 和雯已是非常要好的朋友。每次见到雯她总是板着脸,目不转睛地看着我,让我毛骨悚然。 坦白说我不是很喜欢她, 但心想既然 Moon 跟她那么死党,相信雯自有长处。 几个星期前在办公室楼下巧遇雯。 进了电梯,她脸臭臭地站在我身旁, 一直瞪我,让我不自在。问她:雯,最近好吗? 她咬牙切齿地:好你的头!(看来我的头真的很有问题呢!)

电梯门打开,她忽然伸出手狠狠地扯我的左面颊。我惊叫:啊,痛!你这是干嘛啦?她面无表情,一声不响地转身走出电梯。吓死我了!  后悔跟她 share 一趟电梯! 

昨天跟 Moon 吃饭,我提起雯那天的举动。Moon 咔咔地笑。原来雯竟然有向 Moon 提及那天在电梯里所发生的事情哦!The cheek! (No pun intended.)   雯第一次见到我迷人的(形容词当然是我自己加的!)酒窝便为了我是否整过容而耿耿于怀 (又关她的事?),那天突然觉得非要确认一下。哇,这招够狠!要真是整过容,经她这么用力拉扯,不被毁容才怪。 怎么四周有那么多神经病的? 

话说回来,雯忍了多年才”出手”,然后发现我竟是自然美,会不甘心吧?哇哈哈哈哈哈哈!


Sunday, 11 January 2015

PAROXYSM

Paroxysm: a sudden attack or outburst of a particular emotion or activity.

These days Dad is getting from bad to worse. Each morning he finds something to be mad at us about.  It's as if he wakes up in the morning and thinks hard, "Now what fault can I find with my family today?"

Mom serves Dad hand and foot every single day of their married life.  Every morning he would read the newspapers and she would place his coffee on the breakfast table just within his reach.  One morning somehow Mom forgot.  Needless to say he threw a fit!  He repeatedly questioned her, "Why did you forget?  Give me a reason why you forgot.  I just don't get it, it's something that you do every morning, how can you forget to do it?  Has plans changed?  Do I need to get my own coffee now?  Tell me why you forgot!" The interrogation went on until I came home from work in the evening.  I kid you not.

I guess he couldn't think of anything worthwhile to get upset about today because he decided to rig up old an score.  This morning he brought up that fateful day when Mom and I persuaded him to give up his habit of feeding pigeons.  A tantrum ensued.  He didn’t want to take a shower (“Just let me rot!”), nor take his lunch (“Just let me die!”) 

Previously when Dad wouldn’t eat, Mom would try to coax him, often ending up in the receiving end of a torrent of verbal abuse. Then when he still wouldn’t eat Mom would lose her appetite too. Nowadays Mom decided that she has had enough. When Dad threatened to skip lunch today Mom quietly went into the kitchen and cooked lunch to serve 3. After I laid the table she came out of the kitchen and said casually, “Let’s eat.” And he did!


Saturday, 3 January 2015

"IF YOU'RE AFRAID OF BUTTER, USE CREAM"

Julia Child once advised, “Never name a dish before you serve it. Your soufflé falls in the oven? You’re now serving Fallen Soufflé.” 

If a dish goes horribly wrong, like a ''vile'' eggs Florentine she once made for a friend, Julia instructed, ''Never apologize.'' She considered it unseemly for a cook to twist herself into knots of excuses and explanations. Such admissions ''only make a bad situation worse,'' she said, by drawing attention to one's shortcomings (or self-perceived shortcomings) and prompting your guest to think: Yes, you're right, this really is an awful meal. ''The cook must simply grin and bear it,'' Julia said. 

Julia wasn't afraid of screwing up, even on "Live" television.  In a 1987 Letterman appearance when a burner failed and she transformed raw hamburger meat and some cheese into a blowtorched beef tartare gratiné instead (“It’s very chic, David,” she insisted). 

Here are just a few of my favourite Julia Child quotes: 

"A party without cake is really just a meeting."

"You should never apologize at the table… in cooking you’ve got to have a what-the-hell attitude."

"If you muck something up, then you should change tack or cover it with a tasty sauce."

"Everything in moderation…including moderation.” 

"The only time to eat diet food is while you’re waiting for the steak to cook.” 


"Fat gives things flavor."

"With enough butter, anything is good."

"I always give my bird a generous butter massage before I put it in the oven. Why? Because I think the chicken likes it -- and, more important, I like to give it.” 

"If you're afraid of butter, use cream."

"Always remember: If you're alone in the kitchen and you drop the lamb, you can always just pick it up.  Who's going to know?"


Friday, 2 January 2015

放假


圣诞前夕那天便一直为家事忙进忙出,今天难得父母 “准假”,总算争取到属于自己的一天!

早上出门,先到Square 2 吃了碗广东粥配油条。Super yummy! 店家还在店里摆了一锅热腾腾的咖喱鸡,任客人自取。我也盛了点试试,果然很赞。怪不得这么多人点他们家的咖喱鸡面。 下次我也要叫一份!


Mian 的工作地点就在乌节路一带, 我和她共进午餐后顺道shopping。


同样系列的化妆品用了多年,是时候 update。自2002年[冬季恋歌]播出后,韩流便入侵亚洲,“哈韩”指数一直飙升,这些年来从未下降过,欧美日的产品似乎已passé。改用韩国品牌[兰芝],让肤色看起来明亮,更有精神,好好地迎接新的一年。


走累了,吃份凉豆花,度过一个写意的下午。


Thursday, 1 January 2015

守护

天空中是否有颗星星守护我 只是我没有发觉
人群中是否有个肩膀愿为我 挡住最寒冷的冬天 ...
-- <等一個人> 林芯仪演唱 詞:徐世珍、吳輝福/曲:許勇


不久前在网上读了一篇文章,作者感觉到已去世的祖母还在身边。他不害怕,因为他觉得祖母是因为爱他才不舍得离开,祖母是自己的守护天使。我在想:假设我是一名天使,接受上帝的旨意去守护的是一个自己生前非常讨厌的人,我是否能够一心一意地完成考验呢? 天使,又是谁在守护着?