Monday, 8 December 2025

GOING SPANISH

Caught up with Winnie and Lilian over lunch.  Got treated to Spanish food @Pura Brasa.  I haven't eaten so much pork in a long time.  Gift exchange.  Had a fab lunchtime.

Winnie and Lilian had jobs to go back to so I called upon Eunice, whose workplace is a stone's throw from the restaurant.  She doesn't need to be in the office every day so today is my lucky day!  We had a spot of tea together.  

Eunice and I hang out once a week.  She's my work buddy-turned-bestie.

Spotted a white chicken.  I'm not wild about having wild chickens roaming our neighbourhoods and, the CBD.  









Sunday, 7 December 2025

PLEASE SIMPLIFY

To re-train myself to write better Chinese characters, I've been copying poetry and verses written by poets of the Tang and Song dynasty.  Some traditional Chinese characters, I find, are tough to write.

Can someone please create simplified characters for these? 

(zuan), (yu), (tan), (bin), (nie), (niao), (dian), (pin)

I can promise you that should I ever write Chinese poetry, I will not include such perplexing characters.










Monday, 1 December 2025

人性

今天总觉得笔画是很不顺 还是勉强抄了几个字。

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当一碗水端不平的时候 只有牺牲那个最善良的人才能风平浪静。一旦那个善良的不愿意再牺牲了 就会被扣上一个破坏和谐的帽子。 人性的丑陋之处就在于明明自己揣着私心 却苛求别人大度。 

善良的人总是在反省自己 质疑自己 用道德约束自己。自私的人从不觉得哪里错了 因为他们心里只装着自己。












Saturday, 29 November 2025

DAYS LIKE THIS

I wish every day is like today - uneventful, unassuming, undisturbed.

The day started off with a yummy breakfast.  The avocados I bought earlier this week have ripened nicely.  They were creamy and buttery.  I ate one on toasted bread, with sea salt and a dash of guacamole spice.  

I'm loving this Guacamole Spice that I bought from Gewurzhaus.  Recently, I discovered that it pairs very well with chickpeas!

I asked my BFF if might like to come with me to buy more avos but she already made other plans. 

Luckily, I'm someone who enjoys my own company.  I went and got avos, ate fries at MOS Burger, bought a couple of popiahs home to share with my mum.  

Our maid was feeling under the weather so I offered to do the dishes.  Was rewarded by  a burst of golden sunlight that came through the kitchen window.  A splendid sunset.  



And that, dear reader, was my day.  

Wednesday, 26 November 2025

放下 (二)

这一辈子就是一个过程 没有永恒的生命 也没有不老的青春

时间一到 该老的老 该走的走

我们终究是时间的过客

既然是过客 何必执着?

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其实困住我们的 从来不是失去 而是紧攥回忆不肯松手的执念。

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你放不下的往往不是那个人 而是那个曾经全心付出的自己。别再盯着那扇已经合上的门了 只要你转身就会看见一整片天空在等你。

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Tuesday, 18 November 2025

红酥手

少年时很喜欢的两首词,觉得它好虐,也有点浪漫。然后,“红酥手”也让我联想到“红烧猪手”!(哎哟没错,我就是个吃货啦!)

今天重读一遍,只觉得惋惜。她抑郁,因为她放不下。

“病魂常似秋千索。“ - - 她快窒息了,我仿佛听见了她那无声的呐喊。

“怕人寻问,咽泪装欢。“ -- 唐琬,你辛苦了。

陆游十九岁(绍兴十四年)与唐琬结合。唐琬的才华横溢与陆游的亲密感情,引起了陆母的不满,遂命陆游休了唐琬。公元1151年(绍兴二十一年)的一个春日,陆游在家乡沈园,与偕夫同游的唐氏邂逅相遇。心中感触很深,遂乘醉吟赋这首《钗头凤·红酥手》词,信笔题于园壁之上。1156年,唐琬再次来到沈园瞥见陆游的题词,不由感慨万千,于是和了一阕《钗头凤·世情薄》。同年秋,便抑郁而终。

钗头凤 · 红酥手

宋 · 陆游

红酥手,黄縢酒,满城春色宫墙柳。

东风恶,欢情薄。一怀愁绪,几年离索。

错、错、错。

春如旧,人空瘦,泪痕红浥鲛绡透。

桃花落,闲池阁。山盟虽在,锦书难托。

莫、莫、莫。


钗头凤 · 世情薄

宋 · 唐琬

世情薄,人情恶,雨送黄昏花易落。

晓风干,泪痕残,欲笺心事,独语斜阑。

难,难,难!

人成各,今非昨,病魂常似秋千索。

角声寒,夜阑珊,怕人寻问,咽泪装欢。

瞒,瞒,瞒!


Friday, 14 November 2025

蜗牛与黄鹂鸟

《蜗牛与黄鹂鸟》

银霞演唱 |陈弘文作词 |林建昌 左宏元作曲 |1979年发行


Photo by Krishnan Menon May 2015

阿门 阿前 一棵葡萄树

阿嫩 阿嫩 绿地刚发芽

蜗牛背著那重重的壳

一步一步地往上爬

阿树 阿上 两只黄鹂鸟

阿嘻 阿嘻哈哈 在笑它

葡萄成熟还早地很呀

现在上来干什么

阿黄 阿黄鹂儿 不要笑

等我爬上它就成熟了



Wednesday, 5 November 2025

BRUSSELS SPROUTS

When we visited Melbourne last month, Charina and I ate roasted seasonal vegetables in a restaurant next to our hotel. It was such a simple dish - roasted broccolini, brussels sprout, carrot and potato, sprinkled with course sea salt - yet we ate it twice in the same week.

Today I was alone at home while my mum is out for physio therapy.  What better way to enjoy Me Time than taking control of the kitchen?  So I roasted some vegetables.

I used whatever I found in our fridge: brussels sprout, carrot and zucchini.  I also discovered a small sweet potato in the basket we usually keep onions in.

This is the first time that I cooked brussels sprouts at home.  My mum was pretty curious.  I explained that this was something they had plenty of in Oz, that I had enjoyed eating it and wanted her to try them too.  She then enquired about them a couple more times, asking the same questions she had asked just 30 secs earlier.  She forgets quickly, she was recently diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. 

I pushed most of the charred pieces her way because I thought those were the best part of any roast vegetable.  Unfortunately, my mother cut away every charred bit and left them all on the side of her plate. 'I do not like skin," she said.  

I kept my mouth shut as she continued. "The carrots need to be cooked further."

"The zucchini are too soft."

By tomorrow, she may not remember that I ever made roast vegetables.  





Tuesday, 4 November 2025

故意鼓励固执

对于固执的人,不要想改变他,反而要鼓励他,赞扬他,让他在错误的道路上越走越远。

世上有大多人宁愿喝着迷魂汤上路也不愿喝了良药而回头。少给固执的人建议,你的金玉良言不会换来一丝改变。坚持改变对方可能会遭人嫉恨和报复。你不如说两句漂亮的话,结个善缘。

成年人最顶级的自律是克制纠正他人的欲望。一个人成熟的标志,就是不再急着与人争辩自己的看法。


Sunday, 2 November 2025

WHERE'S MY 23 DEG C?

Stayed indoors all day today.  Stuck in lousy weather - thunder, heavy downpour, light shower, then rain again.   Temp of at least 30 degrees.

I remember that on October 17th, while having dinner with Mian and gang, a message like the one below had popped up on my mobile phone.  I showed it to Mian and we asked each other, "For real or not?"  I was so looking forward to cooler weather (especially since I had just returned from a lovely spring week in Melbourne!)


I waited and waited for 23 degrees to happen!  Can the Singapore weather forecast be more reliable please?

招人嫉妒


今早8点钟还赖床不起,被母亲念了一番。有些人年纪越大,控制欲越强。我和朋友在外面和咖啡,她会拨我的手机。

“哎哟,我们这里下雨呢! 下的好大!你那边也在下雨吗?”
“没有,我这边没有下雨。”
“没有吗?你快要回来了吧?”
“没这么早回哦,我不是告诉过你我今天在外面吃晚餐吗?”
“啊?你不回家吃?那我只好煮个方便面随便应付就好咯。” (可怜兮兮的。)

有好长一段时间,我会对她的话很在意。家里有一大堆好吃的,又有帮佣让她使唤,偏偏选择吃方便面?搞得我虐待老人似的。

但现在的我已经释怀。母亲这是一种 attention seeking. 就好像我告诉她我想去旅行,她从未对我说 “你玩开心点“。她会说“其实家里有老人,你是不应该出门的。要是你在外,我在家里有事,你赶不回来可怎么办?” (她这句 “赶不回来” 一说就是十年。)

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能招人喜欢 从来不是真本事

能招人嫉妒 往往是真的有点东西。


不过,你有没有想过为什么 “嫉妒” “贪婪“ ”奴“ “妖” 等字都是“女”字旁?






Friday, 31 October 2025

乐龄聚餐

今天被姑姑邀去“圣工会新加坡教区华文部 2025年教区乐龄聚餐”。有大概800人出席,午餐非常的丰盛,有婚礼办桌般的架势。

SAFRA军人俱乐部里的
欢喜楼 Jubilee Garden

前菜是六彩拼盘

蟹肉“鱼翅”

脆皮烧鸡

酱蒸金目芦

黄金虾球

XO酱带子西兰花

干烧伊面

一共上了八道菜 (最后一道是莲子红豆沙,我没有拍下来)。

Chilli Crab Kitchen is on IG.

Thursday, 30 October 2025

退休生活

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退休后,早上都要出们走走。Light grocery shopping,回家交代帮佣午餐为母亲煮点什么。

然后喝上一杯黑咖啡,写字,拍照记录生活小点滴。日日如是。

与朋友小聚 (今天吃的是法式可丽饼) 。她刚从北海道回来,送我一盒“薯条三兄弟”。她说:我知道你喜欢“薯块三姐妹”但我没找到。

姑姑邀我明天到教会主办的 lunch 聚会。我不是信徒,就单纯想陪她到教会,表明她家里有人支持她的选择。