Tuesday, 18 November 2025

红酥手

少年时很喜欢的两首词,觉得它好虐,也有点浪漫。然后,“红酥手”也让我联想到“红烧猪手”!(哎哟没错,我就是个吃货啦!)

今天重读一遍,只觉得惋惜。她抑郁,因为她放不下。

“病魂常似秋千索。“ - - 她快窒息了,我仿佛听见了她那无声的呐喊。

“怕人寻问,咽泪装欢。“ -- 唐琬,你辛苦了。

陆游十九岁(绍兴十四年)与唐琬结合。唐琬的才华横溢与陆游的亲密感情,引起了陆母的不满,遂命陆游休了唐琬。公元1151年(绍兴二十一年)的一个春日,陆游在家乡沈园,与偕夫同游的唐氏邂逅相遇。心中感触很深,遂乘醉吟赋这首《钗头凤·红酥手》词,信笔题于园壁之上。1156年,唐琬再次来到沈园瞥见陆游的题词,不由感慨万千,于是和了一阕《钗头凤·世情薄》。同年秋,便抑郁而终。

钗头凤 · 红酥手

宋 · 陆游

红酥手,黄縢酒,满城春色宫墙柳。

东风恶,欢情薄。一怀愁绪,几年离索。

错、错、错。

春如旧,人空瘦,泪痕红浥鲛绡透。

桃花落,闲池阁。山盟虽在,锦书难托。

莫、莫、莫。


钗头凤 · 世情薄

宋 · 唐琬

世情薄,人情恶,雨送黄昏花易落。

晓风干,泪痕残,欲笺心事,独语斜阑。

难,难,难!

人成各,今非昨,病魂常似秋千索。

角声寒,夜阑珊,怕人寻问,咽泪装欢。

瞒,瞒,瞒!


Friday, 14 November 2025

蜗牛与黄鹂鸟

《蜗牛与黄鹂鸟》

银霞演唱 |陈弘文作词 |林建昌 左宏元作曲 |1979年发行


Photo by Krishnan Menon May 2015

阿门 阿前 一棵葡萄树

阿嫩 阿嫩 绿地刚发芽

蜗牛背著那重重的壳

一步一步地往上爬

阿树 阿上 两只黄鹂鸟

阿嘻 阿嘻哈哈 在笑它

葡萄成熟还早地很呀

现在上来干什么

阿黄 阿黄鹂儿 不要笑

等我爬上它就成熟了



Wednesday, 5 November 2025

BRUSSELS SPROUTS

When we visited Melbourne last month, Charina and I ate roasted seasonal vegetables in a restaurant next to our hotel. It was such a simple dish - roasted broccolini, brussels sprout, carrot and potato, sprinkled with course sea salt - yet we ate it twice in the same week.

Today I was alone at home while my mum is out for physio therapy.  What better way to enjoy Me Time than taking control of the kitchen?  So I roasted some vegetables.

I used whatever I found in our fridge: brussels sprout, carrot and zucchini.  I also discovered a small sweet potato in the basket we usually keep onions in.

This is the first time that I cooked brussels sprouts at home.  My mum was pretty curious.  I explained that this was something they had plenty of in Oz, that I had enjoyed eating it and wanted her to try them too.  She then enquired about them a couple more times, asking the same questions she had asked just 30 secs earlier.  She forgets quickly, she was recently diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. 

I pushed most of the charred pieces her way because I thought those were the best part of any roast vegetable.  Unfortunately, my mother cut away every charred bit and left them all on the side of her plate. 'I do not like skin," she said.  

I kept my mouth shut as she continued. "The carrots need to be cooked further."

"The zucchini are too soft."

By tomorrow, she may not remember that I ever made roast vegetables.  





Tuesday, 4 November 2025

故意鼓励固执

对于固执的人,不要想改变他,反而要鼓励他,赞扬他,让他在错误的道路上越走越远。

世上有大多人宁愿喝着迷魂汤上路也不愿喝了良药而回头。少给固执的人建议,你的金玉良言不会换来一丝改变。坚持改变对方可能会遭人嫉恨和报复。你不如说两句漂亮的话,结个善缘。

成年人最顶级的自律是克制纠正他人的欲望。一个人成熟的标志,就是不再急着与人争辩自己的看法。


Sunday, 2 November 2025

WHERE'S MY 23 DEG C?

Stayed indoors all day today.  Stuck in lousy weather - thunder, heavy downpour, light shower, then rain again.   Temp of at least 30 degrees.

I remember that on October 17th, while having dinner with Mian and gang, a message like the one below had popped up on my mobile phone.  I showed it to Mian and we asked each other, "For real or not?"  I was so looking forward to cooler weather (especially since I had just returned from a lovely spring week in Melbourne!)


I waited and waited for 23 degrees to happen!  Can the Singapore weather forecast be more reliable please?